A friend of mine said regarding my last post that she hates to watch Hoarders because it disturbs her and this was my response:
It is probably the tapping (EFT, see the free info at http://www.eftuniverse.com/) I do that helps to heal in me what is disturbing in the (Hoarders) program. When I see some adults whose parents are obviously acting out their on mental health problems and behaving or speaking in an unloving manner to their children who are just trying to help them...just trying to love them and be loved -- that disturbs me because that's the way both my parents treat/treated me most of the time. The tapping helps to reprogram my brain regarding that "tape" or trauma and helps to heal me a little.
When I saw an episode where a hoarder mother's childhood sexual abuse trauma was triggered by the clean up process I tapped because I am a survivor of that kind of abuse and doing my milder/smaller clean ups trigger a milder form of the same. The same mother spent a lot of time on the 2-day program assisted clean up doing the boys rooms but refused to do the girls' even when the therapist on the scene tried to get the mom to so so and had the older girl ask herself. Tapping to that helped to heal me from the many times my parents did kind things for my abusive brother just because he was the male child and neither of my parents ever though I, as a girl, deserved those kindnesses, privileges, assistance.